Heading out with friends who are drinking can be a blast, but it helps to have a game plan to keep your night fun and focused on your sobriety.
- Have a non-alcoholic drink ready from the start – a sparkling water with lime, an NA beer, or a soda can look just like an alcoholic one.
- Tell your friends beforehand that you’re not drinking; good friends will understand and support you.
- Eat a good meal before you go to avoid temptation fueled by hunger.
- Know your “why” – remind yourself of your reasons for staying sober if challenged or tempted.
- Plan your exit strategy; know when and how you’ll leave if things get too uncomfortable or late.
- Stay engaged in conversation; being an active participant keeps you present and connected.
- Focus on connecting with your friends, not on what they are drinking.
- Suggest activities that aren’t solely centered around alcohol, like bowling, arcades, or specific events.
- Don’t be afraid to say no firmly if offered a drink – a simple “No thanks, I’m good” is usually enough.
- Remember to have fun! Your sobriety is a strength, and you absolutely can enjoy a night out on your own terms.